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i'm finally back in california and it feels great. this is the place where i can get a tofu burrito for chrissakes. this is my hood.
my dad continues to improve each day, though we don't know if his brain will recover fully. it's scary, but we are thankful that he survived. he's talking about 1971 a lot and we're trying to get him to 2k4, but things happen slowly. i was ecstatic to see him feeding himself with a spoon and drinking from a cup this week. i thought i may never see that again. this experience has certainly taught me to appreciate the "little things." in fact, i've been able to cross a few items off of my list (thanks to jen for pointing that out). it's funny that it took something this dramatic to get me toward my goals.
thanks to all for the words of support, love and encouragement. they really mean everything to me. this experience has been lonely yet connected at the same time. it's hard to explain until you go through something like this. suffice to say that your words have uplifted me. you made me feel like we were playing that game where each person puts two fingers under you and then they lift you up light as a feather, stiff as a board (thanks, giao!). what was that called? it had some kind of mystical appeal when i was 10 that i haven't quite gotten over.
well, thanks again for everything. you all totally rock.
September 17, 2004 in sharing. | Permalink
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that's great news... hope he continutes to improve. now go get yourself a burrito :)
Posted by: shauny | Sep 18, 2004 5:51:21 AM
Wonderful news on your dad. After my grandfather's recent death, I really like reading about good news about others' family members. I also miss California - I returned to Washington a couple of days ago, and I'm already missing sunshine and soy ice cream!
Posted by: bex | Sep 18, 2004 7:58:32 AM
HEY! We just did that at a party I went to, except we're way too old to be doing it. I am not sure what's it called but we just saying "who's wants to levitate next?!" It was fun, but it only worked one time. Back in CA, yah! There's no place like home!
Posted by: Trudy | Sep 19, 2004 10:17:53 AM
this mixing up of past and present happens during recovery -- it's a state and it will pass. he will probably insist that this is 71 and this and that has happened.
my father went through all this once, but he was worse off, with hallucinations and all. i insisted that he was wrong and it only got him agressive and up against me. i can just tell you that it will pass soon, just don't be afraid and don't push too hard.
Posted by: mademoiselle a. | Sep 19, 2004 1:38:12 PM
I'm so glad to hear your dad's doing better!!! I'm sorry to hear about the time warp thing, but I hope Mlle A is right and it passes soon. Big horrible scary really do shake the important little things to the top. I hope you don't ever have another one. Take good care! I am so glad to hear things are improving.
ps--is it light as a feather, stiff as a board? I always got creeped out when we played that at slumber parties!
Posted by: Giao | Sep 20, 2004 9:36:23 AM
So glad and relieved to hear that your dad is doing much better. You were in our thoughts.
Glad to have you back in Cali!
(sorry my caps key doesn't work!)
P.s. and exactly how does light as a feather work?! I remember doing it once in the 5th grade,it freaked me out so!
Posted by: Rubber-sol | Sep 22, 2004 8:36:48 AM
i'm glad your dad is doing so much better. baby steps is the way to recover. :)
Posted by: stef | Sep 22, 2004 9:43:21 AM
