is 50% good enough?

i'm wondering how parents and soon-to-be parents resolve their differences (and don't get excited. we're not expecting nor do we plan to at this point). my better half is having a "big" birthday soon and so we've been tossing around our family planning thoughts. and it seems like family plans just aren't adding up.

i don't want to baptize. he does.

i don't want the kidlinks to eat meat. he does.

i want a midwife with the least traditional doctor involvement as possible. he doesn't.

is this a phase or are we just tuned into different stations?

we used to pity our former landlord who died, while we were tenants, alone. his wife had passed away a year or so before we moved in and they had no children, instead deciding to travel the world. it sounds awfully romantic, but this person was extremely cantankerous and i could never imagine him having a good time embracing all the continents. he passed away in the company of a paid caregiver. his estate, worth millions just because of the land on which his little homes sat, went to his wife's destitute niece, who promptly booted us out and sold the joints. i always wondered about that. why didn't they help her when they were alive?

i don't want to be that guy, but i don't want to have children who will grow up in a divided household. i used to think we had a united front, but i think it's me that has changed and it's hard to deal with that. should i change back? should he change? i don't know if meeeting 50% on these issues is enough.

well, at least we both hate bush. that's one difference we don't have to resolve.