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feel like i got beat up last night. at a holiday party, i had a run-in with a bully i (unfortunately have to) know and it just left me feeling extremely vulnerable. the tactless questions about my career, my hobbies, my life, even my coat (!) were so rude, i could hardly answer them. and certainly, i wish i hadn't. i tried to divert the conversation to what was going on in her life, but she kept at me. what's worse is that all the people who think she's as awful as i do were nowhere to be found, so i was stuck.

if only i were the kind of person that could simply throw everything she gave me right back in her face. sadly, most of the time when i'm confronted with someone so incredibly offensive, i just sort of blabber away and end up feeling foolish. even in the morning.

i realize that i shouldn't be feeling this way (who the hell is she anyway?), but it is who i am. i'm sure it has more to do with what's going on with me than really what was said, but ugh. i feel terrible.

and if that weren't enough, my warm and fuzzy slippers have met their maker and i now have popsicle toes, the new dog had been eating rocks and is now suffering the "consequences" and the construction noise next door is most assuredly inducing hearing loss.

to clear my head, i loaded up with a (rather poorly made) gingerbread caffè latte, set out for a drive and took some pics.

here's hoping for a better day today as i recover my adolescent mojo.

December 6, 2006 in kvetching. | Permalink

Comments

So sorry.
Just focus on how poorly she must feel about herself that she would treat you so poorly - you know, misery loves company.
Your snap preview rocks!

Posted by: shokufeh | Dec 6, 2006 11:47:29 PM

sorry to hear you had a lousy evening. forget her. what goes around comes around. i really enjoyed your new photos, btw. hope your today was a whole lot better!

Posted by: amirah | Dec 7, 2006 5:04:35 AM

People are real buttheads sometimes. All that stuff that she said was really how she feels about herself. Sorry, that you had to deal with her. Just know its not about you and who cares what she thinks anyways, right? I hope that you find some new fun slippers!!!

Posted by: riana | Dec 7, 2006 6:52:04 AM

Ack, dear Mipmup, that is lousy. Next time, remember, cooly confident and reserved....That's it, I can see you are getting the hang of it...

PS And don't forget those Moroccan slippers coming your way...

Posted by: Maryam in Marrakesh | Dec 7, 2006 3:45:58 PM

Wow, what a bummer of an evening/day! I really dislike when people act like that, especially at a party.

Posted by: dona bumgarner | Dec 7, 2006 6:01:00 PM

What? Who the hell is doing that to you?! Rude.

Posted by: justJENN | Dec 7, 2006 10:10:56 PM

Sorry to hear. well forget her! She's most likely miserable. However, what's more important is the way you can react/cope so that you won't end up feeling terrible the next morning again.

I have the same issues with confrontation, but now I have a few methods that helped me. When faced with a question, refute with another question. If she says something snippy, make a joke out of it. All else, excuse yourself to the bathroom/someone's calling your name/"ohthere's so&so, I've been dying to talk with."

If you want more details on how to do this, I have some examples. But if this is overstepping boundaries, just forget I wrote ;) Bye!

Posted by: sue | Dec 11, 2006 8:00:35 AM

:-( sorry to hear you had such a bad encounter. unfortunately there will always be bullies so sometimes the best thing to do is just walk away, even if that may seem rude but why not? she was rude first! ;-)

hmm. gingerbread cafe latte = fail-safe cure for all ails.

xx
a.

Posted by: a. | Dec 11, 2006 11:06:15 AM

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